People love them some children…and I dont blame them; they are cool…little ass people don’t know anything
You can watch them learn…grow become adults
See them live through things that you did…show them (least try to) the right way of doing things…let them make their own mistakes
Even corret some mistakes you may have made
That all kicks ass
but what no one will ever say out loud (cept me) is…
Children are overrated.
While the above is all true about how coll kids are etc. etc. They are also a hassle…with little to no reward.
Most people that has had children at a young age prolly wish they didnt
NEVER saying that they wish their child wasn’t there or born…NO they are a precious gift
BUT had they had their druthers…maybe they wouldn’t have had sex with that person…maybe they would’ve used extra protection
…maybe they woulda been somewhere else that day.
Love them to pieces…but had they never been born…hey; maybe not such a bad thing.
Having to deal with the other half
The Finacials
Being unselfish
Time commitment
The lifestyle changes
The EXTRA responsibility
Being responsible…solely responsible for another whole ass life? whoa.
Not saying never…but maybe just no child then at the time…but when is there ever a good/right time?
Shiddd I guess when you can afford it and you meet someone you’re pretty sure you’ll stay with so they can help and not be a asshole.
However I WILL say on one hand…I always thought that people that had childrent at a younger age was cooler/smarter/more gooder than those that wait
Cuz:
You get it out the way
Grandmommy and Granddad are there to help
You kinda grow up with the child
Cept that…
Most aren’t ready
Your evolution as an adult is stiffled
School and goals are put on hold or not realized at all
You may become bitter of the things you missed out on
I dunno it’s a give and take.
Would my life be incomplete if I never had a child or got married? HELL no
I have other things and goals and stuff and stuff I can do …my happiness is not tied to those two things soley
Pay me no attention…I’m just a weird man with a keyboard….I be freestylin deez shits son
lovnlife
March 13, 2008
I had to look up druther!
Good points…pros and cons to everything.
I’m petrified I’ve being an older mom…I don’t wanna be 50 raising kids…rather be traveling.
U and your randomness!
Keli
March 13, 2008
My life has been greatly enriched by my nieces…they are cute little intelligent mini me’s…but that’s just it…they are my nieces, I can send them home at the end of the day. It’s like having loaner children.
But you do make some valid points…some people romanticize the notion of becoming a parent, not fully thinking about the responsibility it brings.
See I disagree with the growing up with your child…I view it as a negative. But we are constantly evolving, so really at what age are we ready to become parents?
When I was a teenager I could not stand little kids, unless they were related to me…and even then they had to be smart and extremely cute. I always said I was never going to have kids…so far, this statement is holding true…but now, I do admit that sometimes I look at the bond my sister has with the girls…think about the bond I share with my mother…and feel that I might be missing out.
The Jaded NYer
March 13, 2008
Listen- I ain’t afraid to say it ’cause I’ve said it before…if I had a time machine my kids would not exist, you hear me? Neither one of them.
but such is life; now they are here and I do what I gotta do; they gets much love from me but if I found Alladin’s lamp they’d be gone in a heartbeat!
Kids are overrated; but that said, I am glad it was earlier rather than later, so I don’t have to change diapers while on Medicare. the downside: all the other moms at the bus stop thought I was the older sister…they were all haters in “mom jeans”…HA!
beautifulgyrlj
March 13, 2008
U r not solo on the kid tip. They cute and all (well some of em anyway LoL) but they can’t be all cracked up to how ppl claim.
And stretch marks are soooo not the business!
Being responsible…solely responsible for another whole ass life? whoa.
-OMG u r craaaazy! LMAO!!!!
Mel
March 13, 2008
“Children are overrated”
I kinda heard (rather saw) a variation on that earlier today when the lady at the eye doctor looked at me kinda sideways when I told her I want to (and am going to be) a kindergarten teacher.
But with all of that said, I don’t have to take their lil snotty nose behinds home with me at the end of the day.
a.tiara
March 13, 2008
LOL at children being overrated lol I love other people’s children cause I can give them back so I feel you a little on this.
Being responsible…solely responsible for another whole ass life? whoa.
LOL yea I’m way to selfish right now to even THINK about kids.
You made some good points about having kids early v. late. Either way it kinda sucks lol
Jewells
March 13, 2008
I used to wish I had kids before I hit thirty because I didn’t want to be raising kids in my forties. I can honestly say “thank God” that I am not a mother yet. I still have a couple of years of selfishness in me.
I watched my 3-month old nephew a couple of weeks ago and that was not easy at all. I went almost the whole day without eating. All I could do was change his pampers, feed him and go to sleep when he did because if I tried to do anything else while he slept, he’d cry and I had to stop what I was doing. I couldn’t imagine if I had to do that 24-7. No sir. Not right now.
harriet
March 13, 2008
i didn’t want to get preggers quite as early in my marriage as i did. but he spoiled us. i really think that once they come along, you kind of forget life as it was before and live solely to ensure their lives go well.
but you made some good…nay, GREAT…points.
Eb
March 13, 2008
This is kinda sad E, are you serious that you feel you can live an absolutely fulfilled life without being married. I mean I can see it without kids but without having a companion?
brianna
March 14, 2008
The only kids I really like are my niece and nephew…and even still I am more than happy that I get to give them back at the end of the day.
12kyle
March 14, 2008
As the reigning Father of the Year (8 yrs in a row lol), I’m glad that I had my kids when I did. I wasn’t too young nor was I too old when I became a father. I definitely couldn’t have handled the demands of fatherhood if I became a father at 18. I’m glad that I didn’t wait until I was 40. I don’t know if you’re ever financially prepared to have kids. They cost. LOL. Between child birth and 18 years old, you spend anywhere between 300k-500k on the basic food, clothing, and shelter. That’s a lotta loot! Personally, I wouldn’t change a thing. I couldn’t have asked for 3 better little boys. It’s important that we raise them the right way. More importantly, i have to give them love, discipline, and an example as a man to follow.
anutha good post, fam
Ingrid
March 14, 2008
Children are overrated. I honestly think had I known then what I know now i would have remained childless. Not that I don’t love my child, I do some days she is the funniest thing on 2 feet. The problem is not with her, it is with me. I recognized very quickly after she was born that motherhood was not meant for every woman and had my tubes tied. I agree that I too could live a happy and fulfilled life with no kids or grandkids (future tense) for that matter. And since she will turn 18 a few days after I turn 40 (5 short years from now) I am looking forward to this period when my life can begin again. I have been on livig hiatus for far too long.
eclectik
March 14, 2008
I love me summa my readers
who knew you would understand or agree with any of my twisted logic lol
yeah one u have them you love them to pieces and would die for them
BUT….had they not existed…. lol
I think we are programmed into thinking…college…job…marriage..kids…grandkids…death
it don’t hafta be that way and does not ensure happiness
Ms Lady
March 18, 2008
Well…
I USED to have thoughts about what life would be like without my1st son
Once I had my 2nd…
Ive come to the conclusion that I would probably doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING had I NOT had them to live for.
They make me WANT to be a better me, I love that feeling.