and I hear you, but I still want the title.

Call me stubborn in that regard.

Get over here and lemme give you a title

The point isn’t that the woman needs a title
Why they need the title or why the title isn’t welcome by some men.

The point or message is that in a relationship between two people that label has no effect and is meaningless as far as the individuals and how they feel/relate to/treat each other.

This debate just…frustrates the hell outta me. E, your points are all valid. Yet they are neither more nor less valid than the opinion that the title matters. That being said, I don’t see a compromise or middle ground on something like this.

My opinion is this: the idea of commitment freaks men out. They are TERRIFIED of it. And reluctance to the title is one of the many ways that this fear manifests itself. Right, wrong, or indifferent.

OK, so, yeah…women should step outside of themselves and their own heads sometimes — and so should men. If a woman is willing to give you everything you need in a relationship, and is satisfying those needs well — then why not give her what she needs in return? If she needs the title, you can give it, and it’s not going to kill you, then why not satisfy that need for her and just do it if you care enough about her? That’s what’s involved in relationships — compromising on things you normally wouldn’t for the sake of wanting your beloved to feel at ease and have peace of mind in the relationship.

If I’m able to do something for a significant other, and it’s not unreasonable, and I know it will make them happy — I do it. And if I don’t, it comes down to just being unwilling to do it, for whatever reason. It’s as simple as that.

…If I can get that from someone and they dont want to call me a certain word…me getting upset or mad or wanting to not deal with them is beyond idiotic…

No every man is not the same, but If someone is gonna invest this much into you why wouldn’t they wanna give you a title, that’s idiotic. It doesn’t happen like that.

…Another person could shower someone with titles and labels and cheat or treat the person like shit…what good was the title then?

I already said at the end of the day the actions make a relationship, but I maintain that both things are important. The way she is treated and the title.

We could go back and forth all day. I will just agree to disagree on this one.

The other point is, all men are not the same…women get in the habit of treating new men like the last…Im extra different

Again:
Trust, Honor, respect, Fidelity, Good communication, Good Sex, Laughs, shared wants and passions

If I can get that from someone and they dont want to call me a certain word…me getting upset or mad or wanting to not deal with them is beyond idiotic

Another person could shower someone with titles and labels and cheat or treat the person like shit…what good was the title then?

All people are different but one thing is the same…the “label” has nothing to do with the relationship between two people

it has nothing to do with staying together, has nothing to do with breaking up

And Steve Harvey needs to stick to the jokes
…women and men need to get advice from themselves

It doesn’t make it true cause he said it, but b/c it is true. Every man is not on the up and up, and use not giving a woman a label as a way to weasel out of a commitment. I have known plenty of guys who treat their women like the are the world when they are together. All 5 or 6 of them.

The way you treat her is very important, but so is the label. But not we get don’t to the real problem. You think that the label is gonna change the way that you guys interact. That’s where communication comes in. It’s the fact that they are comfortable with each other, not the label that makes them get lazy. But if you talk it out I am sure that’s a situation that can be easily rectified with a few exciting dates or etc.

Favorite Quote from Love Jones: When people say they are bored in a relationship it’s just b/c they have exhausted the possibilities…

OMG – AMEN, AMEN, AMEN

like who died and gave him a pen (an authority) I thinks NOT!

I dont think Im really that oppose to his book what hes saying or him, I think my problem is moreso with these women who act like they didnt have a clue (or a vowel) before the book came out.

Really??!! Whatevs

lol

If I introduce Keisha as my girl, woman, wife, angel face…people will try and talk to her if they want…she will decide to talk to them if she wants

the day I start taking relationship advice from Steve Harvey is the day I chalk it all up
…just cuz HE said that doesnt make it true lol

I agree giving a label IS an action
But treating her like shes the most important person is a WAY more important action.

People get titles and get lazy.

OK, yes I admit that it makes the woman feel more comfortable, and it is how you are treated in the relationship that should determine whether you stay or leave. But what I think you are missing is that giving her a label is an action, that she should also be paying attention to. Sorry to be cliche’ but Steve Harvey did say that how a man introduces you says alot about your place in his life. Say we go to a cookout and your girl attend a party and you introduce her as “Keisha”. If someone, maybe even one of your boys tries to talk to her you can’t get upset, b/c there was no initial understanding that she was your girl when you introduced her. No she has to reject him, only if she’s not feeling him(cause she’s not your girl right), and you get upset(if you care), etc. etc. Why put yourself in a position to go with that?

JustB: I did answer that…right before the unicorn picture

The other question is, what does telling the world have to do with my relationship?
I did type its stubborness…and not that I oppose them but can a woman admit that they dont really mean anything and are in place to make the woman feel better.

Walking away is walking away…that makes no sense
and again what is “Real commitment”

Re-read the post

If I give everything that a woman asks for in a relationship why does a label make it null and void?

Personally I think there is something else there, maybe you know it’s easier to walk away when there is no real commitment???

Guess that’s why I’M single.